marriage to lightly?

In the past two years I have had numerous friends get married and or engaged. Myself included. I was curious to find out if people are taking it as serious as I am. I feel like a lot of women these days are focused on the title and fairytale of having a husband and a house. Like they haven't really thought about the actual hard work that it takes.

Every relationship starts off in a honeymoon phase. For my husband and I, our first year was as blissful as could be. But you soon realize that after the honeymoon stage wears off you start realizing the things that drive you nuts like leaving the toilet seat up, or leaving a swallow of juice in the refridgerator. But those are things the people in relationship have to deal with and figure out if it worth the long haul.

People that take marriage lightly are the ones who end up getting divorced after only a few months or a year or so. It confuses me because if they end up getting divorced or leaving each other the problems that caused it were most likely problems that were there from the beginning.

A friend of my husbands got his on and off again girlfriend pregnant and right after the baby was born (we're talking like 2 weeks after) they decided to go to the court house and get married. Already knowing that they both had a million issues both personally and relationship wise, my husband and I were against it. Low and behold 4 months after they get married she is filing for divorce.

Now I understand that a lot of people get married for the sake of their children but I'm a long time believer that you can still be a great parent even if you and the other parent are not longer together. Sometimes I think putting the children through that heart break and pain of watching their parents get divorced is harder than if the parents were never to marry in the first place but the child still having a good relationship with both of them.

I have only been married a little over two months, and I know that this is something that neither my husband or myself took lightly. It was a well thought out plan and something we talked about before just jumping into it. Neither one of us has any children and we have never been married before. I have a degree and am working and my husband also has a career going.

Getting married is a serious thing that both parties need to talk about and really figure out if it is for them or if they are just in love with the idea of being a husband or a wife but don't really know what all goes behind it.

What do you think? Do you think people are taking the term marriage to lightly?