Hawaii, the new love of my life!

My parents, husband and I and my brother all took a trip to Maui. I know what you're thinking, who goes on vacation with their parents after the age of 16? I do!!! My family is AMAZING I love being around them especially since I don't see them that often living 6 hours away.

We decided to take the trip because my parents were getting ready to celebrate their 35th wedding anniversary. We left on Friday the 17 and stayed through Friday the 24. The week was full of so many wonderful memories and activities that I know I will cherish for the rest of my life. Seriously. We did everything from The road to Hana, snorkeling, a luau and just laying out at the beach and pool.

The trip was a nice break from all the crap that hubby and I are dealing with. It was nice to get away and not have to think about all the things going on back on the mainland.

We loved Maui so much that my parents bought a condo and hubby and I can't wait to go again next year!!! So congrats to my parents for being married 35 years and being the best example to my husband and I of a strong and loving couple. We strive to be like you guys!!

Saturday fondue and fun

I had this past Saturday off (without requesting it) and it was sooooooo nice to be able to actually spend a weekend day with my husband. He works Mon-Fri and I work random days with two days off a week that change EVERY WEEK, so needless to say I was super excited when I saw that I had a Saturday off!

Our day started off with sleeping in a little bit and me being woken up by my husband giving me a back massage! After getting up and showering we went to breakfast at Bill's Cafe where we had yummy food and drinks (they have a full bar!). The weather was perfect and so we brought the dog along. After breakfast we took a drive to a neighboring city and went up in the hills to a county park they have with a lake and a dog park, horse back riding and hang gliding. We watched the hang gliders while the dog played in the dog park sections it was so nice! We went on a walk around the lake after and Elbee (our dog) jumped in the lake and started swimming! We were NOT prepared for a wet stinky dog (who just got a bath the Saturday before) so we decided to call the park quits and went to Pet Food Express for a puppy bath!

After getting a new freshly cleaned dog we decided to go home and rest for a bit and watch a movie. H gave me a foot massage and we just laid around on the sofa. At around 4:30 we got ready for our dinner reservations (I had no clue where we were going) We left the house a little after 5 and I was left in suspense for the 20 min. drive. Low and behold we were going to The Melting Pot one of my FAVORITE places to eat! On June 9th 2007 my amazing husband proposed to me there with some of our closest friends! wow I can't believe it has been over 4 years!! It was a nice treat and we both REALLY enjoyed ourselves. We also went to a Tiki bar for a few drinks after dinner. We finally decided to call it a night around 9:30 since I had to be at work on Sunday at 8:00 a.m.

The weekend was perfect and I wouldn't have traded not one second of it for anything. I love the time I get to spend with my husband because seriously he is all I need in my life. If I didn't have any friends and he was the only one I would be okay with that (...well maybe that's a little extreme because we ALL need a few friends ;) ) Now we are just counting down until our trip to Boston and Maine!! CAN NOT WAIT!!! <3 < 3

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Travel Bug

H and I have been bit by the travel bug!! We are heading to Boston MA and Camden ME. This is our first big trip since our honeymoon 3 years ago and we are so very excited. My friend Khela who lives in Maine is getting married so we figured what a perfect way to end the summer with a trip. Khea traveled to California 3 years ago for our wedding and we were so thankful that she found it important enough to attend. So now we are heading to the east coast for her wedding at the end of August.

We will fly into Boston and then drive 3 hours to Maine there are no real airports in Maine so that is why we have to fly into Boston Mass. Once we get to Maine we will spend 3 nights there and then drive back to Boston to spend 4 nights there and sight see. I can't wait to eat lobster all day everyday and see all the historical sites in Boston. I will post about the trip when we get back still have a good 7 weeks to go but we are still excited. Also we leave right after our 3 year wedding anniversary! What a blessing it has been to be married to the most wonderful man around!!

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Effort

I've decided that I am only going to put in the same about of effort as you. I don't like feeling like this whole thing is one sided. I've always gone above and beyond for you because I cherish our friendship more than anything..and I'm starting to feel that shift.

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TP

July 4th 2011

This year 4th of July was spent at H's work. This is the first time hes had to work but as Management for his company they were short staffed so he literally had to stand post. It wasn't so bad he worked from 6 to 12 midnight so we were still able to spend most of the morning together and afternoon together.

I really wanted to spend time with him because the two previous days we were both working and we literally had only seen each other for a total of 2 hours in 2 days :( So I tagged along with him to work and we ordered fried chicken the classic "American" picnic dinner and had a picnic at his work.

Luckily for us the offices has umbrellaed picnic tables AND bbq pits! Its actually pretty awesome. We also brought some games and just enjoyed the weather outside. It wasn't our ideal July 4th day but it was a blessing to spend time together. It was perfect!


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Transition

Over the past few months my husband and I have both been going through a transitioning phase in our careers. Right before the new year I spoke with my General Manager about me moving on from working at the restaurant.

The restaurant has been home to me and has given me more experiences than I ever would have thought. I started working there part time while going to college and have continued even after graduating and also becoming a manager. I love my job, the customers and my co-workers. Some of my best friends I have met through my job and I am blessed that it has been able to take me as far as it has.

When I first started researching about getting a different job it was because I was ready for a change, something different. I wasn't unhappy with my current situation but felt like I was ready for a different challenge. Fast forward to 4 months later I am seriously starting to resent my job. I don't look forward to going and I feel so disconnected and unhappy. I never thought that I could feel like this about the place that I work at. Nothing drastic has happened to make me feel this way other than realizing that my hard work is not really appreciated. My schedule is NEVER consistent so my days off are always different week to week which makes planning almost anything with my husband is impossible because he has a regular 9 to 5 job with weekends off.

Another thing is we want to start a family and with my schedule I do not want to be working random hours with split days off. I want structure!! I'm a control freak so structure works best for me.

Me leaving my job has nothing to do with my co-workers especially the other managers. I LOVE the management team because there is a small group of us and we all get along well and work together. They are part of what actually makes me want to stay, but as of right now this transition into wanting something more and different is REALLY starting to take a toll on me and I am praying to God that he guides me in the right direction.

Managers

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Day #15

*Your favorite Tumblrs*

I don't have a tumblr. But my friends little sister does and I look at hers every blue moon. So I am going to say my fav. blogs.

Lori's blog

Our best bites

Christine's blog

Those are probably the ones I like the most...though Christine hasn't written in hers for a while.
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Day #14

*Your earliest memory*

I have no clue what m earliest memory is!! Let me think about this.......

I guess I would have to say one of my earliest memories would be sliding down the stairs at my parents old house. I remember they had green carpet (which I'm sure was trendy in the 80's) and when I was 3 and my brother was 5 we would slide down the stairs. I actually remember him showing me how to do it. He was wearing navy blue corduroy pants and a red and blue striped shirt. I on the other hand don't recall what I was wearing.

I remember my brother standing at the top of the stairs saying watch Ty this is how you do it. I remember my brother watching me as I lay on my belly and he told me to slide down and he would catch me. i remember looking face down, down the stairs and thinking it was scary!! My brother was standing at the bottom of the landing with a huge smile and his little 5 year old arms stretched out. Going down the stairs was super fun and the one thing my parents HATED for us to do.

Funny how that is my earliest memory. Nothing exciting and nothing profound but its heart warming. I loved that the memory involved my brother because he is such a huge part of my life and that it was a happy memory.

*Loving my life as a wife*

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Day #13

*Somewhere you would like to move or visit*

I'll go with some place I want to visit. I have ALWAYS wanted to visit Spain. I'm not exactly sure why but there is something that is so alluring and intriguing about Spain. I want to experience the culture, food and people. I love to travel and I can't wait for the day that the hubby and I get to go there.

I love the colors! Everything looks so bright and fun! The food im sure is amazing and I think that is a big part of traveling you learn so much about a culture through their food. I would love to go during the time of the running with the bulls! NOT that I would want to run with the bulls but to watch other people do it would be really fun!

I hope that one day I will get to go there! Maybe next year? Hubby and I talk about it often but haven't really executed a plan to do it. Maybe that will be the next thing on our list!

*Loving my life as a wife*

TP

Day #12

*Bullet your whole day*

• Alarm goes off at 7:07 a.m.
• Wash face and get dressed for work
• 7:45 out the door and on my way to work
• 8:00 a.m. get to work and start counting tips from the day before and catch up on what happened last night
• 8:15 out on the floor
• 11:30 took my 30 min break and had some tacos! yummy
• 12:00 back to work I go
• 2:00 close down breakfast and pull my first drawer
• 2:15-2:20 count the first register
• 2:30-2:45 count my second register
• 2:45-3:00 do my deposit, count tips for today
• 4:00 get to go home!!
• 4:30 went to Costco
• 5:00 Got home and took the dog for a walk

Thats as far as I have gotten. This was for today which differs from other days not very exciting since I was at work and I didn't go into much detail in terms of what work consisted of but oh well.

*Loving my life as a wife*

TP

Day #11

*Put your iPod on shuffle, and write 10 songs that come up*

1) Come A Little Closer - Dierks Bentley

2) I Told You So - Carrie Underwood

3) Bad Romance - Lady GaGa

4) Circus - Britney Spears

5) You Found Me - The Fray

6) The Truth - Jason Aldean

7) Spotlight - Jennifer Hudson

8) Heartless - Kanye West

9) Note to God - Charice

10) Broken-Hearted Girl - Beyonce

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Day #10

*Describe your first love and first kiss*

For me my first love and first kiss do not go hand in hand. My first kiss was Michael (Mikey) Marquez. We were in 3rd grade which is so funny to me and during class one day he kissed me and I remember spitting on my desk (I'm so mean!!). The teacher caught me and made me pull a card and when I tried to explain to her that Mickey had just kissed me she didn't listen! Its funny because I came from a small town so everyone knows everyone and everyone goes to Junior High and High School together and so all through the rest of our school days (up until college) Michael and I would always laugh about our "first kiss".

Now my first love is more complicated. I had had boyfriends before in high school nothing that I considered serious or marriage material and I was a late bloomer in the sex department. I actually didn't lose my virginity until college which by the way I am NOT embarrassed to say because for me sex was an important virtue and I honestly wasn't about to just give it up to anyone!

Anyway Marius Caloianu was my first love. We met my freshman year and SJSU and started dating. He was an out of state student who was originally from Connecticut. We were in love and for the most part happy. He made me laugh a lot, said the nice things that boyfriends say but he also had a bad temper. We dated for most of my Freshman year and then his step father died suddenly and he decided it would be best if he went back to Connecticut to be with his mom. So we tried the whole long distance thing and going into my Sophomore year things became tragic. He became abusive (when I would go and visit or he would come here), angry, jealous you name it. It is what it is and I'm glad that I got out of that situation. He found me on Facebook a year after we broke up and we actually continue to talk as friends and see how each other are doing to this day. He has since apologized for being such a jerk.

I learned a lot about love from him surprisingly. I learned what a good relationship was and and learned what a bad one was. I learned how to love someone unconditionally (even when things were bad) but I also learned that even if I love someone being with them in a bad relationship isn't always the best thing. He was someone I seriously loved and loved being around and having a good time especially when things were good. He's a good person can't fault him for turning into a jerk but I loved him and the love blinded me from seeing a lot of things. So Thanks Mar for letting me fall in love and know what its like and thanks for teaching me that I don't have to put up with anyones crap!!! :)

*Loving my life as a wife*

TP

Day #9

*How you hope your future will be like*

I hope that in the future I am happy! I know that sounds lame but that's all I can really wish for. I have spoken to many friends recently who don't seem happy or full filled in their lives and I don't want to be like that. I know that I don't want to feel stuck in something that I don't want to do or with something that I am not happy with.

I know that it is hard to know what the future holds but I am the only one capable of making my own happiness. Other people, money and material possessions can only do so much to make me happy.

I hope that the future holds love with my husbands, kids running around OUR house and both of us being successful in our jobs. I hope that our future holds continued love and support from our families and friends. I hope that in the future I am still BEST with Melanie and Samantha and I hope our friendships continue to grow and that we continue to lean on each other when needed.

Career wise I hope that I am doing something I love, either with writing or not. I hope that at some point in the future I would have written a children's book or possibly a fiction novel.

I just hope that life treats me well on this crazy adventure we are all on! That is all I can hope for!

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Day #8

*A moment you felt most satisfied with your life*

A moment that I felt most satisfied in my life is actually now which happens to be 2 years after my husband lost his job. We were dealing with so much leading up to our wedding and our honeymoon. So much planning, graduating from college and getting ready to start our life together.

3 days after we got back from our honeymoon my husband lost his job. It was super hard for us we had just had a 30k wedding and here we were back from our honeymoon jobless. I have never seen my husband so defeated and down. He felt like he was letting me down and that the start of our marriage was going to be horrible. Well we pulled through it and it was rough. Living off of unemployment and my check and savings was something we just never thought that we would have to do. After 4 months he got offered a job and we went for it.

After that everything settled into place and we realized if we could get through that we could get through anything. My husband works hard for us and I seriously can not thank him enough. I do feel that right now at this point in my life I feel the most satisfied. I am satisfied in where I am in my life, marriage, job and where I am financially and where our future might be headed.

This is probably the most I have felt satisfied in a long time. I'm excited about what the future holds for both my husband and myself!!

*Loving my life as a wife*

TP

Day #7

*Your zodiac signs and if it fits your personality*

I don't read my horoscopes like ever. When and if I do read them I take them lightly and think of it more as a fun thing then as true. My zodiac sign is Scorpio (Oct 30) and I'm not sure how much it fits my personality so here is a description I found online.

Scorpio personality

I think some of the things that the description says it accurate but some of it it weird. I do think that I am super controlling and actually can't stand being out of control in any aspect of my life. I think the whole paranormal and conspiracy theory stuff is super weird. One thing that the article did get right on is the fact that Scorpios are scared of failure. I am terrified of failure big time!! That is something that I don't share with many people and even my husband only found out a few years ago.

I think all in all the whole zodiac sign stuff is entertaining but nothing that I take seriously.

Day #6

*Write 30 interesting facts about yourself*

1) I consider myself a VERY loyal friend

2) I can't stand the smell, taste or sight (yes I said sight) of mustard

3) I have road rage...but I'm working on it

4) I think I'm a good listener and am ALWAYS there for my friends

5) I give good advice

6) I'm both book smart and street smart

7) Fiddler on the Roof is one of my favorite movies

8) sugar (candy and desserts) are my addiction

9) I read A LOT and don't mind being called a nerd because of it

10) I get my feelings hurt easily

11) I'm a cry baby (commercials, t.v. shows, conversations and songs) all make me cry!

12) I can be stubborn as hell

13) I'm terrified of bridges and ladders but not heights

14) I like expensive things so I save to get what I want

15) I'm spoiled by my husband and I don't think its a bad thing ;)

16) I work hard on EVERYTHING and have a great work ethic

17) I love high thread count sheets...they feel amazing on freshly shaved legs

18) I vacuum just about everyday

19) I never thought I could be in love with anyone as much as I am in love with my husband

20) I can be blunt at times but I always tell the truth

21) I LOVE to cook and bake

22) I am thinking about going back to school for my masters if I can get financial aid or a grant

23) I used to swim 20 laps every morning in the summer when I lived at my parents house

24) I don't drink often but margaritas are my go to drink

25) I'm a homebody and have no problem spending my spare time in the comfort of my house

26) I played clarinet for 9 years

27) I want to write a children's book one day

28) I'm slightly addicted to Facebook (I can admit it!)

29) I love watching 16 & Pregnant, Teen Mom and The Real Housewives series

30) I'm a grandma when it comes to staying up late...I can't do it! I go to bed early and wake up early always!

*Loving my life as a wife*

TP

Day #5

*A time you thought about ending your own life*

We have all had some low, rock bottom times in our lives myself included but I can honestly say that I have NEVER thought about ending my own life. Suicide is just something that has never crossed my mind. It creeps me out just thinking about it, probably because I am a baby and too scared to actually even think about it let alone attempt it!!

So let me say that I may not have thought about ending my own life but I have thought, what if my life was different or if I was someone else. There have been a few situations where I just felt horrible about the things going on in my life and wishing I could just have someone else life. Going through a bad break up, ending a friendship or a death in the family were some of the hardest times in my life where I thought man isn't so and so luck their life is perfect.

The months leading up to meeting my husband and getting back from living in the UK for 7 months was probably one of the low points in my life. I found it really hard to come back to America where my old roommates from college had moved on and in with other people, go back to school instead of spending time with my family in So. Cal after being away from them for 7 months. I don't know if I was depressed but I was defiantly lonely and searching (not for love my the way! just had to throw that out there). I had honestly felt like I wasn't connected to my friends anymore and the friends I had just connected with and spent 7 months of my life with all lived in different states and it sucked. I would think all the time about wishing I was someone else, more popular etc but I eventually got over it, reconnected with my friends and life went on.

When my grandma passed away that was another rock bottom time for me. I honestly felt like I was the only one in the world who had ever lost someone!! I felt like no one understood how much she meant to me and how close we were they just didn't get it and never would. I was angry and hurt that she died two days before she was about to meet my future husband I was angry and felt like she gave up on me. I hated everything about that time in my life and DESPERATELY wished that I was someone else.

I know that to most people these events seem insignificant and I am sure that most people have been through a lot worse and I count my blessing that I haven't been through anything crazy. I'm glad that I have been able to have a great life so far as short as it has been. I try not to take what I have for granted because I know whole heartedly that there is always someone out there that has it A LOT worse than me and ending my life would not solve any of my problems.

*Loving my life as a wife*

TP

Day #4

*Your views on religion*

Religion is such a touchy topic. I personally believe in God. I love everything that represents him and the fact that for my husband and myself having faith in religion is something that full fills us. I think people are entitled to their own opinion and view on religion and that I am defiantly NOT one to judge.

I don't preach or push my vies on religion on anyone. I hate when people do that to me and I don't think it is acceptable to do to anyone else.

Religion for me is something that makes me feel grounded. I love that its there to lean on when I needed and there in times when I least expect it. I grew up Christian and my husband grew up Catholic. Even though we are both two different religions (though similar) we both believe in God and are tolerant and understanding of each other.

I think religion is something great to have and believe in!!

*Loving my life as a wife*

TP

Day #3

*Your views on drugs and alcohol*

I don't do drugs but I do drink (socially). I think that if someone chooses to drink and or do drugs then that is their decision but they should also be aware of the effects that doing something like that can do to their body and or decisions that they might make.

I feel more passionate about not doing drugs then I am about alcohol. All I have to do is look at one episode of "Intervention" and it scares me and grosses me out enough to make me NEVER want to even think about doing drugs. Drugs are so toxic I can't imagine why anyone would want to put that crap in their body! Nothing is appealing about doing drugs and I think that people who use them and then do something stupid and blame it on the drugs are stupid. They knew they were going to take the drugs and thats the beginning. I don't care what happens after they made that choice, sober or not!

Alcohol to me is okay in moderation. Going out with the girls one night a month or a glass of wine with dinner is always great! I do however strongly believe in NOT drinking and driving! It always amazes me when these celebrities get caught drinking and driving, when they have more than enough money to either take a limo everywhere or at least get a driver or a cab! If you know you're going to drink make it a point to arrange for a DD (designated driver).

All in all I feel like drugs and alcohol is a personal choice and a choice that should be made responsibly.

*Loving my life as a wife*

TP

Day #2

*Where you like to be in 10 years*

In ten years I hope to be working and enjoying my life as a mom!! Both Henry and I have spoken about what our roles will be and both of us have decided to be working parents. We hope to be home owners, happy and still in love!

So much can change in one year let alone ten! So it is really hard to say where we hope to be. I think the most important thing is that I hope I am still happy and in love with my husband and family. They make me so happy and I hope ten years from now my husband will still rub my head to help me sleep, give me a kiss as soon as he walks through the door and smiles at me when I open my eyes in the morning.

*Loving my life as a wife*
TP